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Monday, February 26, 2007

marriage vs career

I had tea just now with an ex colleague who has migrated to down south. Her eldest daughter, the pride of her dad, is doing medicine, graduating next year. She intends to settle down then. But I heard that dad is very disappointed as he wants her to do her specialisation and not settle down so fast. With married life, dad fears that her dreams ( or is it his dreams) will fly out of the window. I think the daughter should be allowed to settle down, bearing in mind that it is not easy to find a soul mate these days.

What do you guys have to say?

posted by just me at 12:48 AM

18 Comments:

  • ultimately it's still up to her, hor? I'm glad and thankful that my parents pretty much let me do what I want, as long as I'm successful in my own way and happy with the life I'm leading.

    By Blogger may, at 2:30 AM  

  • Love doesn't have a time schedule posted as far as I know, of course, getting school out of the way is great from what I hear. I'm still working on my bachelor's degree now for 22 years. I'd like to finish soon.

    By Blogger Dean aka Sgt Dub, at 7:52 AM  

  • As parents, we can advise but we can't force. The final decision is still up to the child.
    Not one is better than the other but it all depends on individuals. One would hope that marriage and career can go hand in hand.

    Judy Leese

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:44 AM  

  • Whatever decisions we make, there are simply risks involved. What seems to make sense at that moment might not later.

    Decisions, decisions...

    By Blogger Ianfluenza, at 7:04 PM  

  • Very hard to say, to me if it is true love/soul mate then will always be there but I could be wrong, also I am not very romantic so I would choose to go on with my studies anytime over a man.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:08 PM  

  • It is her life.
    Not for us to say anything.
    As long as she feels happy, that's good enough

    By Blogger http://chinese.yenjai.net, at 6:03 PM  

  • Life is short. Do what you want to do. What's to say that she won't be able to be a specialist if she settles down? What's to say that she won't get married after getting her specialist status?

    By Blogger William, at 11:45 PM  

  • who cares??? Life's short...seize the moment!!!!!! Do what u want..coz u don't want to be on your dying bed saying, "I wish I......" or "I should've...."

    ah...if ONLY life was that simple eh?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:33 AM  

  • Many of my female friends who married early have since either stopped practising medicine or just running a private clinic as an adjunct partner. Very few have continued to be practicing specialist. Then again she may be more of a family type and not so much a career person. Then again she should do what makes her happy!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:48 AM  

  • she should just go ahead n do watever that will make her happy..who knows, the hubby will be the one to push her to do postgrad?

    By Blogger eve, at 10:26 PM  

  • her father is fully entitled to voice his concern & she should be free to make the decision herself, which her father should respect.

    i agree with william - marriage & specialist training are not mutually exclusive events. why not have both - have your cake AND eat it!

    By Blogger doc, at 8:06 AM  

  • I think that having the cake and eating it might be stretching out the resources a bit.. time, energy, relationship, understanding... not every couple can take that. And do we really need to stretch ourselves that much to be "successful".

    She should consider her priorities and decide what she wants. I think that neither choice is a dead end choice and life has it's second chances.

    By Blogger Unknown, at 8:46 AM  

  • may, blessed you!

    sgt dub, good for you!

    anonymous, you are right

    ian, yes , decisions, decisions...

    firehorse, I see, lol

    simple american, yep

    By Blogger just me, at 1:48 AM  

  • yenjai, only an unselfish parent will think like you

    william, true

    mott, your kids are lucky then

    By Blogger just me, at 1:49 AM  

  • yenjai, only an unselfish parent will think like you

    william, true

    mott, your kids are lucky then

    By Blogger just me, at 1:49 AM  

  • william and mott, right!

    george, that is the right thing for any wife to do

    eve, did you have to make any choice?

    doc, your daughter is blessed to have you as a dad

    bernard, yes, life indeed offers second chances!

    By Blogger just me, at 1:21 AM  

  • Lets face this:

    If you want to be a medical specialist, you would have to put your career first. getting married and getting kids and then going for specialist exams will work, only if you are the 1%

    By Blogger Las montañas, at 5:45 PM  

  • LM, so true

    By Blogger just me, at 12:17 AM  

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