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Friday, February 09, 2007


My son was with me when I visited my tailor. I told him that the tailor is a widow. He then said " She looked a bit sad, why doesn't she remarry?"
Does that mean that in his mind, marriage= "not sad"? And that it is easy for a widow to remarry? Is it any harder if she were a divorcee?
What do you guys think? Know anyone who has remarried?


  • i had a very close friend who has remarried..( i said 'had' cos she is no more a close friend )...her first husband passed away..and 2 yrs later she remarried , now having a family and happy (?)...probably ur son is still too young to comprehend wat is marriage all about...haha..

    By Blogger eve, at 6:38 PM  

  • Maybe he thinks you and your hub have a happy marriage..and that other married couples shud hv similiar happiness????!!!

    By Anonymous mott, at 8:43 PM  

  • A divorcee is more difficult to remarry. One reason is the insecurities of the potential spouse regarding the ex-spouse.

    By Blogger Bernard, at 10:38 PM  

  • Kids have such a simple view of life.

    By Blogger Jonzz, at 6:41 PM  

  • eve, good for your ex-girlfriend..always more difficult for the lady to re-marry in our asian society

    mott, hope you are right!

    bernard, I find that particularly true in the christian circle, agree? They seem to demand higher standards in a potential wife spouse?

    By Blogger just me, at 3:37 AM  

  • Over here, I feel people divorce as easily as changing their outfit. It is too easy and marriage lacks commitment these days.
    In a Christian practice, you can marry if your spouse (adulterer) divorces you but not vice versa. Or, if you are a widow/widower.
    I have seen couples who have been divorced and married happily, widower married to a divorced lady and a woman, separated from her husband seeing another man but refuses to divorce her husband. Who said you can't have your cake and eat it too? :)
    So, nothing is difficult if you set our mind to gaining things be it to your benefit or not.

    By Blogger Dr ve Thru, at 7:55 AM  

  • Sorry.. i got lost there..??

    By Blogger Bernard, at 9:09 PM  

  • What i meant was... for a divorcee, the potential spouse is worried that the divorcee might get back with the ex-spouse. So it's an extra hurdle to think about.

    By Blogger Bernard, at 9:11 PM  

  • Like I said in hijack's post, marriage is not suitable for everyone.
    Whether or not you should jump into it, already is questionable.
    To be single, is definitely better than to get a bad spouse.
    Then again, if you can get a good spouse, and remain happily married, of course that would be ideal.

    By Blogger, at 4:47 PM  

  • dr ve thru, good for them who have a 2nd chance to make it in marriage

    bernard, it never occur to me that a guy will view a divorcee in this light ( fear that her ex will reconcile with her)

    yenjai,when everyone firt gets married, life is a bed of roses and slowly, it changes. So how would one know if the spouse will never change for the worse?

    By Blogger just me, at 1:55 AM  

  • Justme, we don't
    But that's life, right?
    If he started alright, then we will try to 'support' them so that they will not sway

    By Blogger, at 5:50 PM  

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