simple me

Saturday, March 10, 2007

moving on

Let's say you were in a relationship with B. B dumped you. Would you like B to continue to contact you? Would seeing and hearing B give you a lump in your throat and make it harder for you to "move on?"

Ever had this experience?


  • If he dumped me then I would most likely never want to have anything to do with him. The only reason that I can think of for a dumper to want to contact a dumpee would be when they need to feed their ego.

    By Blogger FireHorse, at 11:34 AM  

  • in my opinion, we should move on but at the same time, not to make it so obvious you are avoiding B or B is avoiding kinda stuff. Bcoz years and years down the road you might be related to each other through work, marriage etc. Burn no bridges.

    By Anonymous Bengbeng, at 5:20 PM  

  • Tough question. Frankly, there is no correct, better or less painful way. All have repercussions.

    The main question is; what do you want?

    By Blogger Jonzz, at 5:57 PM  

  • Maybe I'm the emotional type. It would make it harder for me to move on. I'd rather B not contact me so soon after a break up.

    By Anonymous mango, at 7:18 PM  

  • hmmmmmm .....

    By Blogger sbanboy, at 10:40 PM  

  • i was never dumped i wouldn't know..but if i was, i dun think i want him to contact me anymore..brings back sad memories and i dun think i can take it..

    By Blogger eve, at 12:14 AM  

  • I guess it depends on the situation in which the break-up occured.

    By Blogger Bernard, at 6:48 AM  

  • when i was younger, i would have "burned all bridges" with the person who dumped me. but over the years, after having moved on, i bear no malice towards them (yes, i've had a few failed relationships before) & if i met them again, i'd still treat them as a casual/platonic friends.

    i think it's their loss that they didn't give me a chance. ha ha!

    By Blogger doc, at 7:21 AM  

  • firehorse,well said

    beng beng, time is th eehaler for old wounds

    jonzz, tough for the 2 dumpee indeed

    mango, yes,it seems better this way

    sban boy, got you thinking , huh?

    eve, we ladies prefer it this way , I think

    bernard, you are right of course

    By Blogger just me, at 9:35 PM  

  • I like the way you end most of your entries with a question. Interesting to check others' views.
    I have friends who can go from one girl to the next not knowing what they want. Of course, most breakups are painful. It affects some more than others - depends on each's emotional investment.
    However,if you feel a lump in yr throat, or any uneasiness, then why the contact again?
    Personally, I never had that many girlfriends in life to dump or be dumped. Is that fortunate or unfortunate?
    (in keeping with the spirit of the blog, gotto end with a question - !under duress! :0 )

    By Anonymous tw, at 5:53 PM  

  • tw, 'fortunate or unfortunate?'

    fortunate....if it means you don't have to go through heartaches

    By Blogger just me, at 10:02 PM  

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